February - Meet you at the Sunset

It's time for the February Meeting @ Meet You at the Sunset.

Some people say men and women grieve differently. Others say that we as a human race grieve differently to each other. Some people believe that we all grieve the same just at different stages of time.


If you have a partner how has this grieving process been for you both. Do you differ much in how you live with grief? Has it torn you apart or brought you closer together? Have you learned anything about your partner that you did not know beforehand? Share what you feel comfortable with. Link your post from your blog in the Mr Linky below.

Chris and I are very different in how we live with and deal with our grief.  When we were in the hospital after losing Cadynce he was the one who had to make all the calls and let everyone know what had happened and it was very hard for him, he cried a lot - more than I have ever seen him cry - even more than when his grandfather passed away.  But once we got home it was pretty much back to life as normal.  I know that he still hurts and is sad about it but he is not one to show emotion so this has been difficult for me, I've gotten mad at him a few times because it seems like I am the only one grieving.

I on the other hand was inconsolable for at least a week afterwards.  And I still cry a few times a week (sometimes more, sometimes less).  I am reserved in talking about it with others, but when it's just me, well I never know what I am going to get - Smiles, Tears or Anger.

I have internalized a lot of it by blaming myself which is why I have started seeing my therapist.  I hope that it helps me to let go of that guilt that I am holding onto like I did something or am being punished for some reason.

All in all though we have gotten closer.  He has been so supportive of me and has taken such good care of me, it's made me love him even more than I did before, and just reinforces the best decision I ever made was to say yes.  :-)