If one more person tells me that I now have an angel in heaven looking out for me I may hit them. I know that they are saying it to make me feel better, but you know what it really doesn't. I want to say no it doesnt help right now to think about that because I want my daughter HERE with me, not in heaven, HERE!!!!! YOU dont know the feeling you dont know what I am thinking and what I am feeling. If you want to expresses your sympathies say your sorry and leave it at that.
Sorry I am a little bit angry today for some reason, and I think that one too many people have said this to me in the last week or so.
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*huge hugs* I know how that saying can hurt. I had a few people say the same thing and you are right. They are trying to make us feel better and it really doesn't. I know hearing it is not easy, but know we are here and know that pain. You are not alone.
Hi there - Thanks for the comment on my blog (Uninterrupted Prosperity) today. I am so terribly sorry for your incredible loss. I know what you mean about not wanting people to say things about your angel in heaven looking over you. It's just not helpful when you are so deep in grief. I have come to learn that people just don't know what to say. Some choose to find words, whether they are the right words or not, and others choose to say nothing. I wish more of them would just say, "I'm sorry, this must be so difficult," and leave it at that. Hang in there.
thanks guys -- I know that someday that will comfort me knowing that but today is not that day.
You said it Ali! People really think that saying we have an angel makes us feel better. It does not, like you plainly said, we want them here with us. I would rather a live baby than an angel that I can only love from afar. Hugs to you hun.
Some people are so stupid. They don't know what to say and, inevitably, say the wrong thing. Believe me, I've heard it all.
So sorry to have you join the club no one wants to be part of. Please know that I am here if you need anything.
It is hard to hear comments like that. People think they are helping or giving comfort because they just don't know. That is why I am thankful for this group of moms who know and just "get it." ((hugs))
Oh Ali....Hugs.
I find that the people who usually say that most often don't have any clue how this feels. Hugs - I hope the day gets better for you.
Thanks everyone - though the day started roughly I am having a better afternoon.
Guess it's partly that I am not getting more than 5 hours of sleep each nite and I dont do well with that.
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