C and I have been discussing how long to wait until we try again, I know we are take action kind of people and neither one of us has any patience for waiting. Now I know my OB said 3 months before we can even try again, so thats fine, that puts us in January.
My question is how long did you guys have to wait before you were emotionally ready, I mean I know that if i wait until I am completely emotionally ready we will never try again.
We have 6 frozen embies and I really think that we want to try again in january - is that too soon?
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I lost my son on July 1, 2009 and got my period back toward the end of August. My ob wanted me to go through another cycle before we did anything so I waited and got my AF on Sept 20th in which they did all kinds of blood work etc. My hubby wasn't home as he was traveling for business so that puts us at this cycle. Today is cycle day two for me so we plan to try this cycle. Since we are so close to the first its pretty much four months out for me. Hope that helps. *hugs* By the way, I am ready to be pregnant again, but not over loosing my son. I think after you loose a child you are never 100% emotionally ready. I see a counselor to help me deal with my grief and I plan on seeing her once I get pregnant to help me deal with the anxiety of another pregnancy.
I am so sorry about your beautiful girl C@dynce. So very sorry.
As for your question. We ended up with 10.5 months between pregnancies, though definitely not by choice. My MFM asks his patients to wait 6 months because there is research that shows that interpregnancy intervals of less than 6 months increase the risk of pre term labor. Less than 3 is particularly high odds, which is why I guess your OB is saying 3 months. On the other hand, I think it depends a lot on what the protocol will be for you next time. If you are only getting a cerclage, I would think of trying to push the interval to the longer side, even though I know that waiting would be emotional hell. If you are also going to be getting P17 shots, that is itself protective against PTL, so then maybe 3 months is ok. I think this really is up to you, but it is also a very difficult decision.
i'm sorry about your baby... what a pretty name she has.
personally, they told me to wait 6 months but i just cant wait that long. we are trying now, after 3. i may not be "emotionally ready" but like you said, i will NEVER be. my emotions are undone now. i want my second child as much as i want my first. i need that pregnancy as part of the healing process. either way..im scared out of my mind.
Thanks Beth, we couldnt decide on a girl name(we have known our boy name for ages) and were surfing the naming sites and my hubby was like I like Cadence, so I said me too but I'm going to spell it Cadynce (because according to him I'm a weirdo) My MIL said after we had Cady that she thought we might have used one the others we liked, but she WAS Cadynce and I couldnt think of a more perfect name for her. :-) (plus my husband liked that her initials were CAR - what is it with men?)
I think we have decided to try an FET in February, which will put it at 4 months, so I think that's a good interval. Plus I will have my annual well woman at the very beginning of February, which will allow my OB/GYN to exam me to be sure everything looks ok before the actual transfer.
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